For those who are grieving, it can be difficult to see death in such a light. The pain of separation can feel overwhelming, and the absence of a loved one can leave an ache that echoes through your heart. But, as we work with the shadow, we learn that grief is not something to be feared, nor is it something to be avoided.
It is a natural process, a reflection of the deep love and connection that still binds you to the one you have lost.
Grief is not something that should be rushed or silenced. It is not a problem to be solved, but an emotion to be felt and honoured. As a Shadow Worker, I recognize that grief, like any shadow, is an invitation for us to go deeper into ourselves and confront our vulnerabilities. It can bring us face-to-face with our own fears, our sense of mortality, and our attachment to the physical world. But in this darkness, there is also profound wisdom.
The pain of loss is a reflection of the depth of love you had for the departed. Love doesn’t vanish when the body ceases to breathe; it lingers in your heart, in your memories, and in the ways the deceased has shaped your life. Grief is the soul’s way of honouring that love, and it should be allowed to move through you. It is a journey that is as unique as the relationship you shared with the one who has passed, and it should be approached with tenderness, patience, and self-compassion.
The first comfort I offer is this: Your connection with your loved one is eternal. While death may sever the physical bond, it does not break the spiritual link. The soul is energy—it cannot die, it only transforms. Your loved one is not truly gone. They are still present in the space they once occupied, in the moments they shared with you, in the dreams, the feelings, the wisdom they imparted. Every time you remember them, speak their name, or feel their spirit with you, they are here—alive in a new form, free from the limits of the body.
As you grieve, know that they are at peace, that they have crossed over into a realm where they are no longer suffering, no longer burdened by the struggles of the material world. They are whole, they are healed, and they are continuing on their journey. This should not be a source of sadness, but of comfort—a reminder that they are in a place of love and light, surrounded by peace.
It is important to understand that in releasing your loved one to the other side, you are offering them the greatest gift—freedom. The soul does not wish to remain tethered to the world of the living in sorrow or guilt. Just as we must eventually release our loved ones in this life, so too must we let go of them in death. They do not want to remain bound to us by our grief. The soul longs for peace, for rest, for continued growth.
This is where we, as the living, can offer our greatest act of love: by giving them permission to leave. To honour their journey and trust that they are exactly where they need to be, even if it is beyond the veil. You are not abandoning them. On the contrary, you are showing your deep love by allowing them to rest and find their way, just as you must continue on your path here in this world.
If your heart aches with sorrow, know that it is natural, but also trust that the soul of your beloved is in no need of your sorrow to continue their path. They are free from the confines of the physical world. They are whole. And so are you, even if it doesn’t feel that way in this moment.
Healing from grief is not about "moving on" or "getting over it." It’s not a linear path, nor should it be rushed. Healing is about finding peace within yourself, honouring the grief when it arises, and knowing that it is a sign of the love you carry. As a Shadow Worker, I guide those who grieve to sit with their sorrow without judgment, to allow themselves the space to feel and process the emotions without the need for quick fixes or "positive thinking" that dismisses the pain.
Grief is not something that can be easily fixed, nor is it something that will disappear. But it will evolve. Over time, the sharpness of the pain will soften, and you will begin to see the space that your loved one left behind not as an empty void, but as a sacred space for their spirit to remain with you in a different form. It will be a place where love continues to live, not just in memory, but in an ongoing connection to their soul.
Allow yourself to cry, to be angry, to feel lost—these are all parts of the process. There is no shame in grief, no wrong way to mourn. Your emotions are valid, your pain is real, but remember that the shadow of grief is temporary. It will shift. It will transform. And in time, it will bring you closer to acceptance and peace.
Lean into the support of those around you. Share your grief, speak your pain, and allow others to be there for you. The grieving process is a community experience, and it is through love, support, and shared understanding that we heal.
May you find peace in knowing that death is not an end but a transformation. The love you shared with your departed loved one is eternal. May you hold their memory in your heart, not with sorrow but with gratitude for the time you had together. And may you walk through your grief with the understanding that even in the shadow, light remains.
"Though I walk through the valley of shadows, I shall not fear, for love endures beyond death."
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